In game circles, it’s a well-recognized eventuality that some of your leads are going to go cold. In cases where you met the girl in person, or even sometimes on message-based online dating services, you have a decent chance at rekindling the interaction if she was interested at some point in the past. We are referring, of course, to the famed “Restart Text,” which Roosh covers in detail. A restart is a valuable tool to rekindle relationships, jumpstart booty calls, or simply get back in touch with someone with whom the timing never worked.
So what are your chances of restarting cold interactions on Tinder?
Almost zero. The main barrier is that girls are constantly inundated by matches. In a texting medium, you’re one of a finite number of men she can give attention to, since new numbers are not constantly being pushed to her phone. On Tinder, however, you are quickly swept away by the appeal of the next best thing.
Another barrier to the Tinder restart is that girls don’t always keep their profile active.The average lifespan of an active Tinder profile is probably longer than the average OKCupid profile, but this doesn’t mean girls are any more likely to answer messages from old leads. Many girls will try the app for a few days and then check it infrequently once the novelty wears off. If they check their profile once a week and have 50 new messages, what’s going to motivate her to reply to yours?
For a girl who never replied to your initial message, I’d estimate the chances of a “re”start at about 2%—that is, about 1 out of 50 girls will message you back. This happens because they were distracted the first time you messaged, you changed your profile pictures to be more desirable, or something in her situations has changed .Sometimes it’s just the luck of the draw.
For a girl with whom you had a reasonable conversation that just went cold, the chances of a productive restart are about 5% —1 out of 20 girls will let you advance your game farther than you took it the first time. These are still poor odds. Looking over my hundreds of matches, I can identify only two girls I eventually met with whom the initial conversation died out.
An exception to this rule is if you matched while traveling. When you return to that area, you should immediately re-start with all girls that you matched with previously, since geographic distance likely played a role in the conversation going cold. You have an even better chance of restarting if your pictures show you are obviously foreign which is often the case with international travel.
Of course, no generalization is without its exceptions. If you send a re-start, or follow up with a girl who never replied, you may get lucky and catch the girl in a different mood than when you first matched. Ultimately, though, the general uselessness of restart texting makes it even more important that you message the girl immediately and take the interaction off of Tinder as fast as possible. In a situation that rewards boldness and feeds people with constant novelty, you’re going to lose more often than not by playing the long game.
Have you experienced different results? Leave a comment and share your experience with re-starting old matches.
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